I’ve learned that …if I had known what it really takes to get a table-top book from the idea stage to holding a physical book in my hands I probably would not have attempted such a project.

…the process of completing a book is an ongoing test of your mental fortitude, patience, perseverance and sanity.

… you must see the project finished each and every day you’re working on it.

…there will be days when you don’t want to interview, write, or photograph anyone that has anything to do with the book.

…things always come up to slow you down, discourage you, or test your dedication.

…there is no time for ANYTHING else!

…you must think about the book each and everyday before during and after it’s completed.

…I was a control freak, wanting to control each and every aspect of the process because everything mattered.

…there will be things you realize you could have and will do differently next time.

…real friends are always there to help and say something (when you start to lose it).

…kids are great at reminding you that you haven’t finished yet by asking, (are you finished with your book yet??? Why does it take soooo loooong?)

…people will think it’s a great idea (because you’re doing it, not them)

…you must brainwash yourself to think that as soon as you finish everyone will want to have a least 5 copies of your book (even though we know better).

…being on the road and living out of the back of your truck (loaded with enough equipment to build a house and photograph it when done) can be a very lonely place.

… as you travel, snow storms don’t make exceptions for would be published authors!

…all printing is expensive, but in order to get it done right you gotta spend the money.

…there is never enough money to make the project happen!

…once the book is finished, the real work begins, now it has to be sold, and since no one knows who you are you; you’re totally on your own! Since you are an unknown author (a nobody) no distributor wants to take your book, and you only have 1 book to market.

…marketing and selling your book are constant thoughts after you get boxes and boxes of books in your garage.

… you always have to have (at least 5) copies of your book with you or very close by, for that sale you manage to talk someone into.

I set out to learn what it takes for couples to remain in a committed, lasting relationship, while happy and in love. (Oh, and publish a book also)

…at the end of the day, as I hold a completed book in my hands, I can say it was all worth it; and as a result; I’ve already began the torturous process all over again!

If you’d like to see the end result of these past three years of work visit: http://alwaysandforeverlove.org or go to Amazon.com

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